FOUNDATION

When two person get connects together, linked up or whatever... a bridge has to be built.

The building of this bridge cannot be done in a rush. The foundation has to be laid brick by brick. Taking care that each brick is firmly in place, before laying the next brick. Such is the case for the foundation of a relationship too.

If the foundation is not build properly, a single strain may cause the whole bridge to collapse; a relationship to fail.

I use to argue it’s always better to follow this pattern:
Acquaintance->friend->close friend->couple

Because such is the case where the foundation is laid strongly; step by step, brick by brick. However, this is really a rare case.

Most pple usually goes from:
Acquaintance->friend->couple
Acquaintance->couple

The state of 'close friend' is omitted. Why?
Because of the intense feeling of attraction; the 'wants' and 'long' for each other.
This intense feeling cloud our mind/thoughts/emotion and of cos logic.

So what happen when this is the case? Does the bridge collapse when a strong wind blow?
Maybe. Maybe not.

Then how much are u going to commit yourself? After all the intense attraction faded away, that is when the hard work came in. How much then are you willing to put into this relationship? How much are u willing to sacrifice?

Love is a choice.
A choice to share.
A choice to commit.
A choice to embrace.
A choice to care.
A choice to trust.
A choice to love.