STRUGGLES

This post will actually make me felt vulnerable / naked / prone to attack, BUT i believe its worth to share =)




OF UNDERSTAND
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understand
results from: Dictionary.com

–verb (used with object)

6. to learn or hear: I understand that you are going out of town.
7. to accept as true; believe: I understand that you are trying to be truthful, but you are wrong.



How does one understand something? Someone?

By learning. By hearing. Every single message, a simple nod of head, a smile etc leads to another step of understanding.

By accepting the thing as it is; the person as himself. By believing and trusting, understanding grows.


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OF DOUBT
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doubt [dout]

–verb (used with object)
1. to be uncertain about; consider questionable or unlikely; hesitate to believe.
2. to distrust.
3. Archaic. to fear; be apprehensive about.


When my old wounds closed/healed.... it left me with a sudden emptiness. The months of pains no longer exist. I question...where did the feeling go? Where did the pain go? If everything will fade in time... then where is true love? Or what is true love?

I don’t know. But someone told me she believed in true love when all these questions still rings in my head. That caught my attention. And slowly she has my attention.
Sep 06 passed by. Oct 06 flied away. Nov 06 withered slowly. Dec 06 gone in the blink of an eye. My doubts still have the upper hand of me.

“When I first met you I was afraid to like you, now that I like you I'm afraid to love you, now that I love you I'm afraid to lose you.”

Jan 07. I’m sure it’s not just a crush. But I still doubt. I fear that reveling my feeling will spoil our friendship. I fear that IF anything work out... what happen if a better one for either come along... what will happen then...

Till a friend passed away. A friend who were like a sister to me. It was like jumping into the sea. The cold water hit me. Then the 2nd waves and the 3rd washed over.... I woke up.

The things in the future... we will never know. If I will to die tmw, my deepest regret is that I have not love and care for the people I love enough.

The bible has this line: true love drive out fear =)

I guess I finally understand its meaning. Its always about GIVING!
“You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving.”

When you just want to love and give, there is no fear of rejection. No doubt of the future. Cos’ love itself is simple and pure =) It is us that complicated love.

There is no better. Nothing is perfect. It’s only our perspective.
“Love is not blind -- it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less.”
our flaws get exposed over times. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less. That is love. To be able to accept each other as who they are. To be willing to forgive one another for their wrong. That. Is the 'blindness' of love. =)